How to Beat Depression as a Man

“I’m not happy.”

That’s what you tell me.

Well, who said you always have to be happy when you haven’t worked for it?

Happiness is at the top of the mountain somewhere. Why should you feel happy when you haven’t climbed it?

It’s society that told you that you should be happy all the time – without any reason at all.

Well, you’re right. I don’t think you should be happy.


You’re fat, you’re lazy, and you look like shit. You can’t even support yourself financially, let alone someone else.

This concept of you should always be happy, always smiling and laughing is bullshit.

If you’re a broke-ass dude, living in your mum’s basement and you spend your whole day playing video games and you feel happy as fuck every day, then that’s great. Good for you. You should keep doing what you’re doing.

However, if you feel unhappy and depressed, that’s good.

Depression is a FANTASTIC form of motivation.

If you feel you have some emotional pain, that’s your body telling you that you have something missing.

You have to do something about it.

If you come to me and tell me you’re depressed, you better be giving me a HUGE list on what you’re achieving PER DAY.

I don’t expect you to be sitting at home, popping pills, and feel sorry for yourself.

That’s what society tells us all the time, “oh no, you’re depressed. You should be happy. Here, have some pills and take some time off.”

No, complete garbage.

Go for a run.

Lift more weights.

Make more money.

Get a second job.

Get more girls.


This is something I fucked up in 2016, during my civil engineering job. I was depressed for 6 months, feeling sorry for myself and thinking there’s nothing I can do. Bitching and complaining to friends and family. I hate this, I hate that, blah blah blah.

If I could go back in time and tell my former 23-year-old naive self would less talking and more action. Just outrun depression.

You ain’t got time to be sad if you’re trying to get where you want to be.

If you’re working the job/s that you need to do, you’re training, you’re meeting new people, and you’re trying to start your business on the side, you’re going to wake up one day and think “Wow”.

You do not need to be happy to perform.

Happiness comes at the end of performance.

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