^ Office view vibes 🙂
I’m slack on my writing, I know. Life is pretty hectic now. I’m back in Chiang Mai, Thailand now, so I’m trying to streamline everything – room cleaning, 5 min to work, gym in my condo, eating out every day, etc. Maybe now I can stay consistent with my posts…. doubt it though…
So here’s a quickie.
I try to make my posts interesting, from my personal experience, and not your typical mainstream advice. However, this is pretty mainstream (and obvious). Forgive me….
An Epiphany From a Fight
So, the other night I was out – Zoe in Yellow to be precise. This is the go-to place for farangs in Chiang Mai, Thailand.
The place closed at midnight – early I know, but it’s the local rules.
I was just chilling outside minding my own business.
Next second I know, I see 30 Thai guys beating up two white dudes. The two guys were bigger than your average guy, but when you’re up against 30 small Thai guys, you have no chance.
I’ve heard stories about this, but never witnessed it with my own eyes. It was freaking crazy – you just had to be there…
Apparently the owner of the bar told them to leave as they were closed but they guys told him to “F**k off” because they still wanted to drink. So obviously, all the Thai guys (security, friends, randoms) around them jumped in.
Imagine it’s this video, but 30 Thai guys vs. 2 White dudes:
Building your circle
So, where am I getting at with this?
Sure, the white dudes may be twice the size as a Thai guy, but when you have numbers, it doesn’t matter how big or smart you are. You will get wrecked.
This doesn’t apply to just a fight but in all areas of life.
Sure, you could be smarter than you’re average guy and you could probably do a better job doing things yourself, but you there’s a limit of how much one person can do.
At university, I would try to learn the whole course material myself (which is what you’re meant to do). If I got stuck, I would try to figure it out myself – the lone wolf mentality. Would it not be better if I asked someone and save myself 5 hours of headache?
I remember I was trying to design a website and I was trying to move a picture from one side of the page to the other. I spent a good 6 hours trying to figure it out. Jesus, it was a headache. In the end, I asked a friend and he did it in 2 minutes. Yeah…
I would not be where I am now if it wasn’t for the people I meet.
^ It’s not much, but it’s a traffic boner for me 🙂
I now have an affiliate site that’s making money when I’m sleeping. All because I partnered up with someone. If I were to do it all on my own, god… I would not be making money right now. I can piss off for a month and come back, and it’s making me them $$$$$ – not enough to live off yet though.
Being in a mastermind with like-minded individuals where we’re all helping each other reach the same goal. I actually wouldn’t be in this SEO mastermind if it weren’t for my previous mastermind in Ho Chi Minh City where he forced me to create one in Chiang Mai.
I’m now meeting the best online marketers in the industry on a daily basis.
I’m not saying this to brag. I’m saying this because you don’t have to do it alone.
Creating a network for yourself will push you further than if you had to do it alone.
It’s like what Steven Covey in the 7 Habits of Highly Successful People said “When one plus one equals three or more and the whole is great than the sum of its parts.”
What am I saying?
Stop doing shit all by yourself.
Do it with others. Yeah, you may get ahead faster if you did it by yourself, but you will get further if you did it with others.
Practical steps on how to build a circle:
1. Read these books
I’ll be honest; I’m no expert at network building. The network I have now is not big, but it’s tight. I was just at the right place at the right time.
I feel a new blog post is needed for this topic. But to get you started, you need to check out these books:
- How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
- Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi
- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
These books are worth a read.
2. Create a mastermind around your niche
What’s a mastermind?
A mastermind group is a peer-to-peer mentoring concept used to help members solve their problems with input and advice from the other group members.
Basically, it’s a group of people who have the same goal as you and you’re all helping each other to reach that goal. It’s great for accountability as every week (or whenever you guys decide to meet) have to tell everyone what you did that past week. You’ll feel crap if you did nothing and then you have to tell people this. It’s just a great buddy system.
Here’s how I structure my meetings, however, you can do this however you like with your group (or person).
- Weekly meetings
- 4x people is good – not too big and not too small. You can do this with just 2 people. It’s all about getting feedback from others.
- Tell your group what your goal is, whether that’s a life goal, one-year goal, or a six-month goal. They’ll get a feel of where you want to go and based their advice and feedback to this goal.
- Every meeting, one person tells the group about their past week. The good and the bad. Did you achieve your goals? Any problems you face or are facing? The group should be chipping in here and there to give their feedback. Then, tell the group what your new week goal is.
- Repeat this for everyone
Hard mode: Place a stake on your goals. e.g., “If I don’t complete this task, I will donate $100 to X charity”